The Real Truth (Relationships Part 2)

THE TRUTH IS, the truth is sometimes more powerful in a relationship than anything else. The truth can be broken down into many different things first is the simple fact that you don’t tell one another lies and then there is the truth that you actually open up to one another. Being truthful with one another is an important and powerful part of a relationship. It creates vulnerability and actually allows both people to connect on a deeper and more intimate level.  When you want a relationship to be real, there must be a realm of truth that is created. Though you may think you know someone because you can tell random strangers some information about them doesn't mean you really know some one. Just knowing likes and dislikes doesn't mean you truly know a person it just means you can read their facebook page and hate to break it to you but facebook friends aren't always the truest of relationships.  What makes a relationship actually a relationship is when both parties involved are able to be open and honest about their life, their desires, and their struggles.  Being open about those things can honestly make a relationship so much stronger, it may seem unreal. It’s hard to imagine that just the opening up of life can create such a stronger bond between two people but it truly does. The important thing is when you hear the other person’s honesty you have to realize what your role is in knowing the truth. Whether or not hearing it makes you desire to pray for them, end the relationship, guide them through the hard times or even be willing to be there by their side following them and being there when they need a shoulder to cry on or a hand to squeeze. Hearing the truth does not just give you another topic to talk about, but it allows both individuals involved in the relationship to be real. It's about knowing each other's lives and not telling lies. 

FOR REAL though, life is not about just the good days, but the good and bad days. Real relationships aren't just about take, but there is give and take.  There are different types of relationships in life however for the ones that matter the most to us I realized that there are really two main categories. There are one sided relationships and then there are two sided relationships.  If you want the relationship to be a real relationship that can actually grow then a two sided relationship is necessary. Without both parties giving the same amount into the friendship or even romantic relationship then the relationship can’t truly be real. Real relationships require both parties to be involved. There has to be give and take. You can’t just expect to be given everything you want in the relationship be it gifts, advice or attention and not do anything in return. And I mainly say this realizing that I have been on both sides of relationships that are one sided. Many a times, I have had people come into my life claiming to be friends or even great friends and then getting walked all over. It’s one thing to ask a friend for advice or help but it is another thing to never listen to them when they need the same thing. At the same aspect we all know those types of people that have one main conversational topic, themselves. And I am not going to point any fingers and say “SHE IS THE ONE THAT…” or even start going on about “HE JUST NEVER SHUTS UP..” no, not at all! In fact I think most people tend to be one sided in some of their relationships.  And I am not saying that people should never talk about themselves, I am just saying when you recognize that you are talking too much about yourself, it might be a good sign to ask about the other person.  To be real in a relationship you have to be willing to be two sided. No matter how much you like the sound of your own voice, which I must admit, I love how my voice sounds to me, you need to let the other side talk.  For a real relationship you have it’s important to realize it has to be two sided. Relationships aren't therapist and patients.  I think that far too much of the time we as people forget that relationships involve two living, breathing, REAL people.  If you seek a real relationship, we have to remember that we are dealing with real people.  

(My thoughts on relationships) - The Introduction

People that have actually read a lot of these blogs have realized that I am not the biggest expert on a lot of things, and one of that happens to be relationships. But not just relationships dealing with boys but relationships dealing with friends and family as well. A few weeks ago while flying back to Texas from Thanksgiving in Arizona, I started to write. Now I am not going to copy and paste everything I wrote then because I believe some things don't have to be written. Some things can just be examined throughout watching others live. Ultimately this post is written just for you all to know, what is probably going to become of this blog. And no, the title of the blog is not going to change. I feel that the name " The Beauty of It All" still has a lot to do with what I may end up posting. That and I really like the blog name! Without further to do, here is my new blog(s). And as it was when I first started writing these things, I am not expecting anyone to read it rather I am just wanting my words on a page and if people happen to read it, awesome. :)

I LOVE YOU three little words that hold so much power and at times I’m afraid to use and then at other times I’m throwing the phrase around like an old Frisbee to a dog. I say it to people who mean little to me but I am afraid to use the phrase when it comes to people who mean so much to me. 

MY MISSION is to write about love, to learn about love and relationships. To be the best friend, daughter, sister, and girlfriend I can be. I know that it may be a bit foolish to start this quest but I think it’s needed. I don’t think this will ever be in the hands of millions but I do think that just writing this will hopefully be able to help me transform myself and hopefully help me be and if ever the day comes others to be the best they can be. My mission in this writing quest is in a sense to discover how relationships should be. Especially since relationships are not my strong suit. 

MY CREDIBILITY. If you have to know the truth, I have no credibility not in the slightest sense. If you’d like to imagine that I am a family studies major with a minor in psychology feel free to do so! After all you are free to imagine whatever your little heart desires! You may like to know though that none of that would be true. Nope! The only credibility I have in writing this is I am a human from a family and I just happen to be In various types of relationships. So if you have gotten this far into reading this and would like to print all of this off and make it a book and throw it on the ground because I am no Dr. Phil, please feel free! Actually I would encourage you to do that if you are truly that upset that I am no Dr. Phil. However little credibility I actually have, I guarantee this may still hold a little more worth than that of an issue of a National Enquirer. I’ll actually throw in some truth. And for that, you are most welcome. 

So feel free to join me on this quest! Will anything actually be of any use to anyone? I have no earthly idea! All I know is I really like the thought of doing this even though I really don't have any credibility and what I say probably doesn't matter to you. But the truth is, I like writing out thoughts, and this is a good easy way to do it.