THE TRUTH IS, the truth is sometimes more powerful in a
relationship than anything else. The truth can be broken down into many
different things first is the simple fact that
you don’t tell one another lies and then there is the truth that you actually
open up to one another. Being truthful with one another is an important and
powerful part of a relationship. It creates vulnerability and actually allows
both people to connect on a deeper and more intimate level. When you want a relationship to be real,
there must be a realm of truth that is created. Though you may think you know
someone because you can tell random strangers some information about them doesn't mean you really know some one. Just knowing likes and dislikes doesn't mean you truly know a person it just means you can read their facebook page and hate to break it to you
but facebook friends aren't always the truest of relationships. What makes a relationship actually a relationship
is when both parties involved are able to be open and honest about their life,
their desires, and their struggles.
Being open about those things can honestly make a relationship so much
stronger, it may seem unreal. It’s hard to imagine that just the opening up of
life can create such a stronger bond between two people but it truly does. The
important thing is when you hear the other person’s honesty you have to realize
what your role is in knowing the truth. Whether or not hearing it makes you desire
to pray for them, end the relationship, guide them through the hard times or
even be willing to be there by their side following them and being there when
they need a shoulder to cry on or a hand to squeeze. Hearing the truth does not
just give you another topic to talk about, but it allows both individuals
involved in the relationship to be real. It's about knowing each other's lives and not telling lies.
FOR REAL though, life is not about just the good days, but the good
and bad days. Real relationships aren't just about take, but there is give and
take. There are different types of
relationships in life however for the ones that matter the most to us I
realized that there are really two main categories. There are one sided
relationships and then there are two sided relationships. If you want the relationship to be a real
relationship that can actually grow then a two sided relationship is necessary.
Without both parties giving the same amount into the friendship or even
romantic relationship then the relationship can’t truly be real. Real
relationships require both parties to be involved. There has to be give and
take. You can’t just expect to be given everything you want in the relationship
be it gifts, advice or attention and not do anything in return. And I mainly
say this realizing that I have been on both sides of relationships that are one
sided. Many a times, I have had people come into my life claiming to be friends
or even great friends and then getting walked all over. It’s one thing to ask a
friend for advice or help but it is another thing to never listen to them when
they need the same thing. At the same aspect we all know those types of people
that have one main conversational topic, themselves. And I am not going to
point any fingers and say “SHE IS THE ONE THAT…” or even start going on about
“HE JUST NEVER SHUTS UP..” no, not at all! In fact I think most people tend to
be one sided in some of their relationships. And I am not saying that people should never
talk about themselves, I am just saying when you recognize that you are talking
too much about yourself, it might be a good sign to ask about the other person.
To be real in a relationship you have to
be willing to be two sided. No matter how much you like the sound of your own
voice, which I must admit, I love how my voice sounds to me, you need to let
the other side talk. For a real
relationship you have it’s important to realize it has to be two sided.
Relationships aren't therapist and patients.
I think that far too much of the time we as people forget that
relationships involve two living, breathing, REAL people. If you seek a real relationship, we have to
remember that we are dealing with real people.
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