REAL PEOPLE have real emotions, real desires, real needs,
real wants, real likes, real dislikes, etc., etc. And If we are being real here
it’s important to realize what all comes into the fact that people are
people. The biggest thing about
recognizing that relationship is about real people comes the realization that
real people have real problems, real baggage, a real past, real hopes, and real
fears. When we forget that relationships involve real human beings it’s almost
as if we are back in that elementary school mindset. Now, I know that I am not the only human that
has every played the game house. If I am then I feel really bad for the rest of
the world because that game was my favorite. When we forget that relationships
involve real people we become the child I dislike most in the game of house,
the child that somehow gave instructions on how to pretend to be human. A lot of times I have to remind myself when
“dealing” with other people that I can’t control them. As much as we’d like to
try to be in control of others, it’s honestly a big joke. After all, we aren’t
even in control of our lives. As much as we’d like to pretend that the world
revolves around us it doesn’t. I am really bad about realizing that. So much of
the time, we don’t want to actually own up to the realization that life
consists of real people. One of my favorite things to do while driving, aside
from pretending that some of the other drivers and I are on teams, is imagining
where everyone else is going. It truly is people watching at its finest. People-watching is always entertaining to me
because it is one of the few times that you allow yourself to step out of your
life and look into others. However, in
relationships with others we don’t just have to watch, but we can interact with
our friends and loved ones. We have an opportunity to dive into discovering out
about another person’s life without having to open up a magazine, or
pretending! But we can’t just look at
the lives of those around us in a manner that we are merely people watching, we
actually have an obligation to interact. So often we as people tend to think
the world revolves around us. Which of course we know it doesn’t but we go and
assume to look at life in the service manner where the rest of the world has to
serve us. If we begin to open our eyes and realize that most people have an
outlook similar to that then we should go forth and serve. We should listen to
people that matter to us, there hopes, dreams, past failures whatever and
actually care. When dealing with real people we realize that we can’t change them
for our own desires, just be along their side for the ride and being there for
when they need you.
Sorry I haven't posted for a while, been spending time with mi familia as everyone was home for a few days. But I think you can deal with that because spending time with people is part of building relationships and working on them! :)
